I recently read through “The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership” by John C. Maxwell. It is an excellent read, and I would recommend it to anyone looking to understand developing as a leader. The book is not new, it was published in 1998, but the lessons you can learn from it are applicable in any time.
The very first law of leadership that Maxwell discusses he calls the “Law of the Lid.” As he explains it, your effectiveness or impact you can have is determined by your “success dedication” and your “leadership ability.” He plots the two like this:

The amount of effectiveness or impact you are capable of achieving is “capped” by the amount of leadership ability you have, no matter how dedicated you are to success. For example, if you are a very successful person, but do not have leadership ability, your chart might look something like this:

If someone were to raise their Leadership ability, they would likewise be able to increase their effectiveness. For example:

This “Law of the Lid” concept got me thinking about where else in life we might be limited by our ability in some aspect. One area I think we are limited by in our life is our ability to “be tough.” My favorite definition of toughness comes from author Steve Magness and his book “Do Hard Things.”
“Real toughness is experiencing discomfort or distress, leaning in, paying attention, and creating space to take thoughtful action. It’s navigating discomfort to make the best decision you can.”
Steve Magness, Do Hard Things
Magness says developing real toughness comes from replacing:
- “Control” with “Autonomy”
- “Appearance” with “Substance”
- “Rigidly Pushing Forward” with “Flexibility to Adapt”
- “Motivation from Fear” with “An Inner Drive”
- “Insecurity” with “Quiet Confidence”
“Do Hard Things” is a book that I would recommend to anyone, but especially people who are young. Everyone should have the mindset that they are trying to grow into the person that they are trying to become in the world, and I truly believe that people will be limited in their ability to see the positive change in the world if they don’t develop their ability to be tough. Really tough. Not fake machismo-esque toughness, but resilient and able to overcome challenges.
One of the false dichotomies I see people have is that compassion is somehow unrelated to toughness. Compassion is defined as “sympathetic consciousness of others’ distress together with a desire to alleviate it” (Merriam-Webster). If someone is trying to make the world a better place, no matter how compassionate they may be, they will be limited in their ability to make the world a better place unless they are likewise very tough – and I mean the real kind of toughness that is resilient and able to overcome challenges. Just like leadership ability, there is a “lid” to how effective you can be in the world if you don’t develop toughness. I would adapt Maxwell’s chart to look something like this:

If you are incredibly compassionate, you might have the ability to have some effectiveness in making the world a better place. But if you lack the toughness to carry that work on, you will not be very effective in seeing that change take place:

Just like in Maxwell’s example with Leadership Ability, if you develop you ability to be tough, you will increase your effectiveness:

These are just two examples of how people might experience the “Law of the Lid” in their lives. In reality, there are many “lids” we might encounter. Leadership ability and toughness are two qualities that might limit you, but maybe knowledge is a lid, or maybe some other area in life that you identify. Understanding what your limiting factors are can help you increase your effectiveness. Take this and use the information to make the world a better place.
RH









